Blog 2

It’s the forbidden conversation that no parent wants to with their child; sex. But in my opinion I would prefer for my child to aware about this matter than to be naïve, be taken advantage of or face other concerns. Grandparents of teen parents are now facing the reality of being the primary caregiver of their grandchildren.  Kids are being exposed to peer-pressure at such a young age that you have to be prepared to take to your child about sex to prevent major consequences. Middle school will be a major transition for both female and male pre-teens. It would be best to talk your child about sex before they start a new school year. Summer time would be best since it just right around the corner before classes start. The ideal scenario would be a place where the parent and their pre-teen are comfortable environments where they can freely discuss without being interrupted or feel embarrassed. The family home is a favorable place to talk about this. Parents should approach their child when they are when they both not busy. The ideal place would be the kid’s room since that is the most relaxed environment.

The parents should approach the child how they normally do. The parent should be open and ready about having a conversation. Tone of voice plays a major part as well to have opened lines of communication. The conversation should not conclude that sex is shameful or scare a child by giving them unrealistic advice in an authoritative voice. A bad example of this would be as follows: Hey I’m just letting you know sex is bad, and I am kicking you about if you have a baby. Nothing was accomplished in this scenario. If you don’t teach your children about sex then, they will learn about it somewhere else. Whatever they learn elsewhere may be misleading from peer- pleasure and distortive. It is better that you have this conversation with them before they get the wrong information from others. Not only that but you are also bringing awareness about the subject so that they can become assertive individual. You are building a confident pre-teen to prepare them with real life situations that they will confront as they start to develop and grow.

When talking about subject start by asking a simple question such as if they know what sex is. They might not know or might have an idea. This is the moment where clarification and openness plays a role for the parent and child. It’s also a good idea to if you listen to what they have to say in order to build trust. Other things to talk about are relationships, sexual transmitted diseases, pregnancy and different forms contraceptives. This information can seem overwhelming and its best to talk about frequently with them so that they are at ease and aware.There are different ways that people may define sex and relationships. A helpful tool that is online is Planned Parenthood and Love is respect website. The sites offer great information for early development of a teen.

 

 

 

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teens

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/parents

www.loveisrespect.org